Personality

I am completed intrigued by the concept of the ' examined life '. I don't completely understand it, but man.... it sounds great !!
I considered myself a ' thinker ', until such time as I have met a honest to god, genuine one. This person observes , analyzes, and in my opinion- has thoughts on everything around them. This is not a judgement on my part, as I have said- this is a talent I wish I could master. Being around this person, is sometimes maddening. As example, small things- this said with little or no thought; said for the value of entertainment become topics for later discussion. Things I say, and have no real reason for saying- having no harsh meaning, have the potential for hurting another. This is not OK.
I assume being on the other end of the rainbow, that constantly analyzing things ( even subconciously ) can lead to some long days. Constantly wondering what is meant by certain things- questioning whether or not you are correctly interpreting things- finding resolution to all of these things.... it's a big deal.
I do not want to hurt others, as I do not want others to intentionally hurt me. I am not the type of person who is a tremendous planner, and many times find myself more disorganized than I'd like to be. I rationalize this as my professional day is SO organized, that when I'm free of it, I may overcompensate and not worry about other things/ timelines, etc. Given this disclosure about myself, I can see where it may be maddening to others around me. Don't get me wrong- I manage the basics... but some of the bigger stuff, I may stumble over. I guess a point to this is - I WANT to be certain things for others I'm not ( such as a thinker/ planner ); but, in my road towards living the examined life- I'm discovering my limits in meeting those wants.
It is hard for the person who does not want to hurt others to recognize these things. To know you hurt others- whether directly or not... and to realize that the origins of these pains is just your personality, well... it's just hard.